Saturday, September 25, 2010

Engaged in a GREAT cause!



So, my last post happened to be on August 3, my Fiances birthday, who consequently became my fiance on August 4th. I am soooooo excited to be pushing forward with my life and preparing for a future of good things. For those of you who think all of us "engaged" or "unmarried" people are living in La la land about the big M of Marriage, I would like to let you know that I hold no "fantasies" about a happily ever after without trials or frustrations. I know the costs, I am sure of the difficulties (what would life be without them?) but I whole heartedly embrace the chance to change my life from a ME syndrome to a WE compromise.

I am totally in love, but not with a dream or a wish or a hope. I have met a man who has surpassed all my expectations in a spouse. When I was young I dreamed, A LOT! Then I grew a bit and realized that my dreams were slightly earth bound and that they didn't have as many lasting qualities as I really wanted. As the years have gone by, the desire to be married has never diminished, but the joy I expect out of finding the love of my life and being a wife has.

To take care of someone and to work together knowing that our love is based on what our loving Heavenly Father would have us do, now that is the fantasy that I choose to seek out. I wondered if I should give up on being so expectant of Gospel and Spiritual preparation and service, but somewhere deep inside I felt the Spirit whispering that if I would build my life right around the gospel and if I would live my life the way the Lord directed that there would come the day when I would find a man who was equal to my preparation. I wasn't attracted to the man because of his charmingly rugged good looks, or because of his financial status(both are wonderful qualities). Not for his kindness, or for his honesty(although they are wonderful). I was first attracted to this man who knew who he was, knew the Lord's hand in his life, and who completely trusted in the Lord to help him push through trial after trial. I was attracted to a man who served seemingly everyone in his ward, and who was known for his "always be willing to serve" attitude throughout the community. I was attracted to a man who two years ago despite serious problems and devastation heeded a Bishops plee and a priesthood promise and dedicated himself to regular planned Temple attendance. I was attracted to a man who upon entering the temple knows every temple workers name and story, who notices if someone is missing from the regular Tuesday night Temple staff. I was attracted to a man who always is the first to volunteer and generally is the last to leave after having completed as many tasks as possible. I was attracted to the man who willingly takes on the responsibility to make others burdens light. I was attracted to the way he played with and loved every child around him. I was attracted to his smile and his lonely eyes.

ALLLL this attraction had to hit my head before it could seep into my heart, but once it did, MAN ALIVE!!!! I was guided to Montana to live, the Lord led me to Podunk little Broadview, and gave me a sweet aunt and uncle who took me in and helped me see the possibilities of befriending a kind man in their ward. Look at us now!!!! less than six months later and we are Engaged in a GREAT cause. We are waiting to set a temple date, but not a day goes by that we don't discuss the joys of being sealed and starting our eternal family. What greater cause can there be than that, Starting an eternal family with covenants and blessings. I am soooooo happy that I waited, that I never gave up.....and I am sooooo thrilled at the prospect of being married to a man who keeps and honors his covenants and lives as a worthy, honorable, dedicated, self-less priesthood holder-A man who puts God before all. What greater joy could I have asked for? None I say, None!

3 comments:

Tara Huish said...

I love this entry. LOVE it. You know when Ryan and I got married all of the guys at work were like, "Give it a month. The honeymoon will ware off..." and a month later they asked how we were doing and Ryan's like, "Great! I love marriage!" and they said, "Give it six months...real life will set in." So six months later they asked and of course we were still doing great and LOVING marriage! I don't know why marriage has such a bad wrap. Sure it's work and there are trials but it is the most fun work we will ever get to do :). My blog is private because....well...it's boring. I just post pictures of my kids and stuff for my mom to see but if you are interested let me know and i'll add you to the readers list!

Nygards said...

Congrats! Love your posts! Hope all your wedding plans are going great!

Jennifer Maughan Duke said...

Tara, Yes I want to be added to your reader list. Yes, the goal is not to let it wear off...the honeymoon stage....the advantage we will have is that he has been there before, and I am pretty sure he is totally in love....Everyone who knows him says they haven't seen him this happy in a long time. His dad just smiles and giggles when I come around...I know we have a good thing. I AM SOOOOO excited.

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